People
generally have two kinds of needs during
a home purchase. First are the
transactional needs, such as searching
for a home, obtaining financing,
negotiating the terms of purchase,
completing paperwork and legal
documents, and arranging the move. The
second are emotional needs that are
involved in a home purchase, which can
be where the most stress occurs in a
home purchase. The following are just a
handful of tips to help you and your
family ease the stress of moving.
Prepare your children
Although
you may have lived in your current
residence for just a few years, the same
few years can be half the lifetime of a
seven- or eight-year-old, and can
include all the years he or she can
remember. Your current residence may be
the only home your children have ever
known, where they feel safe and
comfortable. It may be the center of
your childrens' world.
Be
sure to announce the move in a
completely positive way. You might talk
about how beautiful the neighborhood is
and how good the schools are. Bring your
children to the new house, if you live
close enough that it is possible to do
so. Otherwise, positively describe the
new house. Find out what your children's
favorite things are in your current
home, and then try to re-create them in
the new home. Keep your children
actively involved in the process. For
instance, don't just promise that they
can decorate their new rooms, but take
them shopping for paint, bedspreads,
carpets, and other items that will make
the experience more fun and comforting.
Your
children are bound to have worries,
fears, and sorrows during the move. They
may be moving away from friends and
family they have known their whole
lives. Find ways to make parting
pleasant. You can plan a going-away
party and let your children invite their
own guests. Take pictures of everyone
and create a photo album. If your
children are old enough, allow them to
take pictures of the neighborhood that
they will want to remember.
Gain knowledge
You
may feel a sense of being out of
control, as though other parties to the
purchase transaction are running the
show and you're merely getting in their
way. Your mortgage company, the
appraiser, the inspector, and the seller
all have certain powers to approve or
disapprove of your overall plan to
purchase this home and move
successfully. This is certainly not
easy!
Although
this can feel stressful, one of the best
things you can do for your own peace of
mind is to understand as much of the
purchase process as possible. Your
Realtor� will be able to prepare you
for unknowns ahead of time and tie down
loose ends as soon as possible.
Trust the process
There
can be so much to do that it's easy to
panic. It may feel like you're taking a
big risk, but the truth is that you're
initiating a big opportunity for you and
your family. Even though you can't
predict what will happen every step of
the way, your Realtor� helps people buy
and sell homes as a profession! Your
Realtor� has been there before and
understands that this is a major
upheaval in your life. Trust that your
Realtor� is looking out for you on your
way to a successful closing and move.
Be flexible
Knowing
that your Realtor� will do everything
possible to prepare you for the various
processes involved in your home
purchase, and will tie up those loose
ends quickly and efficiently, it's
important for you to remember that there
is no such thing as a perfect world. The
property inspection may reveal areas of
concern, or closing may be delayed for
some reason. Try to take a deep breath
and be flexible in your thinking. You
will have a much greater chance of
making your decisions based on logic and
not high emotion.
Seek entertainment
Whenever
you feel that things are spinning out of
control, find a diversion! Take a walk
around your new neighborhood, go on a
day trip out of town with your family,
or take your family to a movie. Whatever
diversion or outlet works best for you,
this is a good time to engage in it!
Remember to take one "move" at
a time.